While I was growing up, I had difficulty in conversating with people especially the girl kind. So i used to try to ignore them as much as possible and I always used to find a way out of the conversation. I literally used to treat them as if they don’t belong to the same society as we do, to me they were so dumb, always trying to hide behind the bushes, feeble etc that, I used to think that we were superior to them. I know most of you would have felt the same way as I did at some point of time in life and used the same trick of ignoring them.
The solution to the problem that I found was simply a healthy conversation. Unless or until you truly try to understand and feel the same way as they do, you won’t respect them be it a guy or a girl it doesn’t matter.
Because sometimes people won’t understand how you feel until it happens to them, until they experience the pain and suffering- Brigitte Nicole
All this problems, if not solved or understood at the correct time then the probability of you committing to a crime as such increases exponentially. A study by Marshall et al. (2001) found that male rapists had less empathy toward women who had been sexually assaulted by an unknown assailant and more hostility toward women than non-sex-offenders and nonoffender males/females.Factors increasing men’s risk of committing rape include alcohol and other drug consumption, being more likely to consider victims responsible for their rape, being less knowledgeable about the impact of rape on victims, being impulsive and having antisocial tendencies, having an exaggerated sense of masculinity, having a low opinion on women, being a member of a criminal gang, having sexually aggressive friends, having been abused as a child and having been raised in a strongly patriarchal family. Sexually violent men have been shown to be more likely to consider victims responsible for the rape and are less knowledgeable about the impact of rape on victims.
America, Canada, Sweden and United Kingdom are the most immersed in this crime. About 36% of women globally have experienced either physical or sexual intimate violence. In U.S.A 83% of girls aged 12 to 16 have experienced some form of sexual harassment in public schools. In England, 1 out of 5 women (aged 16 to 59) experience some form of sexual violence. Vatican City is the only other country that allows men, but not women, to vote. The average Afghan girl will live to only 45 – one year less than an Afghan male. More than half of all brides are under 16, and one women dies in childbirth every half an hour. A large majority, up to 85 percent, of women in Afghanistan give birth with no medical attention.
And many more countries that we can talk about. But i won’t go talking about other countries, since my country India itself faces similar problems just the figures are different the problem that lies within the core is one and the same.
Rape and Sexual violence is a massive problem in India. According to the National Crime Record Bureau (NCRB), crimes against women have increased by 7.5% since 2010. Women account for 39 percent of all adult HIV infections in India. Domestic violence in India is endemic and widespread predominantly against women. Around 70% of women in India are victims of domestic violence, according to Renuka Chowdhury junior minister for women and child development. National Crime Records Bureau reveal that a crime against a women is committed every three minutes, a women is raped every 29 minutes, a dowry death occurs every 77 minutes and one case of cruelty committed by either the husband or relative of the victim occurs every nine minutes. 50 million girls were killed in the past century in the practice of female infanticide or foeticide; around 100 million women and girls are estimated to be victim of human trafficking; 44.5 percent of girls are married before the age of 18.
93 women are being raped in the country every day. The majority of the offenders are known to the victims – 31,807 (94%) were familiar to the accused, which includes neighbours (10782), other known persons (18171), relatives (2315) and parents (539).Most rapes go unreported in India and the rest of the world. According to Madiha Kark, an estimated 54% of rape crimes are unreported, while Mihir Srivastava estimates 90% of rapes go unreported in India.
Now just ask these following questions to yourself….
Why is it allowed for girls to wear shorts at home, but not outside ?? Why do society say that skirts are bad for girls ?? Why is it necessary for girls to avoid dark lanes ?? Why do we (boys) get to stay at our friends place, but not our female friends ?? Why do girls have to start walking faster when we (boys) whistle or tease or call them by different names ?? Why do their parents are always worried about them being alone in a pavement or a garden or at their workplace ?? Why are they not allowed to work after marriage ?? Why do they have to adjust their clothes when we look them ?? Why can’t they get out of their house after 6pm ?? Why are their different sets of rules for boys and girls ??
These are the questions with no good answers..We always address these social problems on social media or platforms, but fail to explain it`s vitality to the right person who needs these guidance. And my way of solving it, is a simple healthy conversation with the opposite sex. Look, it doesn’t have to be anything big, it could be as simple as educating the person standing right next to you.
Be safe, Be happy????????
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